Hi Rob. I'm new to the ODE community and noticed you seem a little lonely out here! I think we have a lot in common and I appreciate the forum you've created. I am also a "card-carrying" Vajrayana Buddhist, father, part-time poet and so on.
In terms of being engaged, which is the focus of this group, one thing I've done is create a free monthly e-zine that communicates positively about health, creativity and spirituality. Having a wide-ranging audience of non-Buddhists, Buddhists and so on forces me to funnel the energy of my practice and vision into messages that can benefit everyone, and in that way "engage" them.
I'd love to get feedback from you or anyone else who reads this group. Am I or not engaging positively in this way? How could I continually incorporate dharma into these messages intended to inspire people of all backgrounds?
From my blog you can access the archives of the ezine.
I'd love to hear from you!